You’re living in the wrong time zones.

Lately, I’ve been finding myself smiling like an idiot (to myself) while remembering things that have happened in the past. Memories. Jokes. Ideas. Pain. Yes, pain. I now laugh at the bad times in life. The times I was upset and cried. Of course in the moment of my hysterics I did not find it funny at all and it felt like everything was going to shits. I mean, come on, when you cry it HAS to be dramatic 😉 But now…now it’s funny. And that’s the best feeling ever. It means you’ve grown and are able to look back on it and say, “Two tears in a bucket…motherfuck it!” Or maybe that’s just what I say…

What I’m trying to say is–life is full of ups, downs, laughs, tears, love, heartbreak, disappointments, accomplishments, and a lot of other great things. They’re all great. They make us learn, they make us think. The problem arises when you let what has happened to you affect you and your future decisions negatively. I’m a strong believer in living in the moment. That does not mean I will snort a line of coke if it’s presented to me. It means that you focus on the five senses you posses (or six, if you’re special) and go with it. Right now, you are reading this article. What’s around you? What do you smell? What does your body feel? What do you taste in your mouth? What sounds do you hear? Answer those questions to yourself and stay in the moment, because nothing outside of that exists. Forget anything negative that happened to you today, or yesterday, or when you were 5. It ALREADY happened. It does not exist RIGHT NOW. Stop thinking of the future. It has not happened YET because it’s only an expectation. Of course this doesn’t mean you should forget that you owe $20,000 on your school loans because the bill is not due for a week. I wish. Please, don’t put your life completely on hold. We all have responsibilities that shouldn’t be forgotten about. But just stay mindful of them. That’s all. The rest…the rest is YOU. You make your day and you make your life.

For me, I can’t help but smile when I see the sun. When I see the trees, clouds, children, animals, water (not bottled). They are all so pure and simple. Nature is still and it is present. Right now and always. Unless of course you’re a strong believer in December 21, 2012. Children…they have the attention span of a goldfish. It’s fantastic! They don’t know the meaning of past and future (with the exception of remembering that you promised them ice cream if they behaved). Animals…they live off of their instincts, which only arise in the moment. Sleep, eat, play, hunt, protect, and repeat. Don’t even get me started with birds. How cool is their life? They fly above all of us. They go wherever they want to. And when it gets cold they go somewhere warm for vacation! Smart creatures. They just really need to pay more attention to their surroundings. Pigeons, I’m talking about you. Your death rate is high my friends.

So I challenge you. Just try it for one day. Stay in the moment. When your mind wanders off to the past or the future, slap yourself…mentally! Just enjoy what you have. And smile to yourself. Remember, even the fact that you’re reading this right now is great in itself. Someone out there would give a lot to be able to see.

The past is an experience. The present is an experiment. And the future is an expectation.

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From the book called ‘The Rules” to the movie “He’s Just Not That Into You”, our brains have been filling up with lots of facts about the dating world and how to survive in it. Some rules made sense, and others simply went against our natural instincts. If you think back to how people used to live when technology was not as advanced, it seems that love was much simpler. They had no rules. They didn’t have a dating bible. They simply went off of their feelings and natural instincts (or urges, if you please). People appeared to be genuinely happier and had healthier relationships that weren’t sabotaged by unnecessary media input. Since cell phones did not exist, I am almost positive that the guy didn’t wait 72 hours to come knock on a girl’s door that he had been out with 3 days prior. So what makes it ok today? This article helps to break the dating chains we have been wearing for so long and gives us a more realistic perspective of blossoming relationships. There is certainly something to learn from it.